Are you here looking for some magical words and Things You Can Practice to Feel Confident Again that will change the way you see life forever? Turn you into a butterfly from the dreadful cocoon? Then you are in the wrong place. Before I start talking about a few personal and general experiences/advice, I will tell you one thing. There is absolutely no solution that works for everyone in this world. It is YOU who can change the way you feel about yourself and yes, IT HAS TO BE AN ACTIVE EFFORT.
That girl in the office – born perfect right? She has everything that a girl could ever ask for. Looks, money, a successful career. She maintains a really good relationship with everyone and she always gets her way. Any girl would be envious, right?
Stop and ask yourself. Was she born that way?
There have been many studies on whether self-confidence is a result of nature or nurture. Without question, there’s a biological basis to your behavior that your folks offer you (and you pass it off to your children), with the predisposition to be optimistic or geared towards seeing the cup as “half-empty.” As any leading-edge neurobiologist can tell you, however, your biology is not your destiny. You have an entire host of choices which will absolutely increase your natural sense of self-confidence.
I have been struggling with self-confidence all my life. You will be comforted to know that even the most confident person you know, doubts himself/herself on a regular basis. All the motivational speakers and all the hotshots – they are not where they are because they always knew what the next step was.
They made it because they fought their way through it. I have let my low’s get the best of me for a long time. I have faced criticism in my head that no one uttered. I have let others define me and I changed my standards based on them. Believe me, when I tell you this, people can smell your insecurities. Despite all of that, I will tell you about the ways you CAN feel a lot more confident. And remember, practice makes perfect!
Things You Can Practice to Feel Confident Again
Don’t Let Anyone Else Define You
Stop being on the fence about what they will think of you. You do not need them to tell you that you failed, or pat you on the back. You need to believe that you are doing your best. Stop putting yourself down.
If you are not being treated with the affection and respect that you deserve, check your self-worth. Maybe you have a lower standard for yourself. It’s you that decides your value, not the acknowledgment you get from others. Find out who the unnecessary people in your life are and get rid of them.
It’s actually difficult to leave individuals or cut individuals off – particularly in the event that you adore them. Be that as it may, you need to perceive that they have negative impacts on your life. LET THEM GO.
Put on What Makes You Confident
Make conscious efforts to feel beautiful. If you feel ugly day in and out and do not want to drag yourself out of bed in the morning, you need to remind yourself that every day is a blessing, and you need to be at your best to embrace it. Pull out the items in your closet that you’ve forgotten about. Go pamper yourself with the most expensive gifts. One thing that really helped me find myself was creating an aura of confidence around me. I found that smelling a certain way was doing the trick for me. The best part of it was, the confidence came in a bottle that I could spray on every morning.
Constantly Remind Yourself of the Good Things in Life
I always felt that opportunities just presented themselves to my boyfriend and things were easier for him. This would anger me and I would intentionally start a fight saying how if I was given what he has in life then blah blah blah… Stop that right now. Stop blaming your circumstances. You need to constantly remind yourself that you are blessed. If you are sitting across the screen, reading this article right now – you are more privileged than 80% of the population. Make a system for yourself. What are you grateful for? Write it down in a notebook, or write it on the mirror every day. Whatever the method you use – make it a routine.
Expose Yourself to New Cultures
In case you’re experiencing something troublesome – whether it’s a matter of the heart, your career having no direction, or simply feeling like you’re trapped in a hopeless cycle, kindly help yourself out and visit a place that you’ve never been to before.
There are so many things that we experience while traveling which help us in the long run. On the off chance that you don’t have anybody to go with you, GO ALONE. You will be astonished at the different individuals that you’ll meet, and how their perception of life will influence yours.
Find Your Passion
Do you have a hobby? Are you looking for one? You don’t have to be one of those people who has everything figured out. What matters is that you are actively seeking something that you are passionate about. I had given up playing the violin after I got my grade 5 certificates from ABRSM. But now, I am trying to take an hour every day to practice. And let me tell you, it has been great. Find that one ‘great’ thing for yourself and you will feel a lot of self-worth.
Make happiness contagious. Laugh all your troubles away. Sounds corny but there is science behind it. There is a saying that you are what you attract. Drowning yourself in self-doubt will only attract self-loathing and your confidence will fly out the window.
If you find happiness within yourself, you will find that you are more comfortable and confident in your own shoes.Trick yourself into believing that you’re happy. Work those smile muscles on your face and you will find yourself doing it more often!
As a concluding note, I would like to say that you cannot see yourself as others see you. When you laugh and cry and glow in happiness, only the people around you know how beautiful you are.
Remember, you have a power within you. That unmatched power will recuperate you, move you, and others. So, actively try to believe in yourself and put yourself first.